In my last two postings I wrote about two commonly overused phrases, “It is what it is” and “You don’t know what you don’t know.” This post deals with another overly used phrase, “Everything happens for a reason.”
That statement is true. Everything does happen for a reason, but what reason? There are people who attribute the reason to karma, or they believe the universe was not treating them well. I don’t believe in karma and the notion of attributing anything that happens to us, good or bad, as the “universe was in control” is nonsense.
For example, Joe needs to buy new shoes, and he wants to use his debit card, but the purchase is denied because Joe has insufficient funds. Everything happens for a reason. True. The reason is that Joe is irresponsible and does not manage his finances.
People in leadership positions should avoid using these phrases because they become excuses for character issues, mediocre performance, and behavior problems. Also, people in leadership positions should not accept those excuses from the people who are working for them. We must all be held accountable for what we do and what we say. I know because I have been held accountable for both and at times it was not pleasant.
As leaders, we should strive to use words and phrases that convey meaning and not fluff. If you are struggling in this area, I recommend that you read two of John C. Maxwell’s books: Everyone Communicates, Few Connect and The 16 Undeniable Laws of Communication. Also, visit my website at www.fireofficerleadershipacdemy.com to learn how I can help you in these areas.
